Day 2, Swinging Emotions
It has been day of swinging emotions. The sadness hits Edric in big waves and he can go from happily playing to just curling up and withdrawing from everything.
First off everyone actually slept pretty well. We followed what we had been told about Edric’s bedtime routine (minus the part about going to bed at 11:30, we went WAY earlier). He crashed curled up on my chest and it didn’t take long for him to fall asleep. I woke up first around 6 and Clint and Edric woke up around 7 I think. Eric woke up dry heaving though. He had not really eaten or drank much of anything yesterday and his little tummy was pretty empty which being the one he was sitting on and snuggled up against while he tried to throw up I was thankful that there was not much that came up. After a bit his stomach calmed down and he drank some water and juice and actually ate some rice and omelette thing that foster mom had made. It was the first time he had really had much to eat. After breakfast he packed up his toys and took them to the door and tried to put on his shoes. He pointed to the door and the window and said “Omma” which is foster mom. It was as if he was saying, “thanks guys, sleep over has been fun but I’m done now, take me back”. It breaks my heart.
We took our time getting around and skyped with Leighton and Caemdon and my mom. Edric was pretty mellow during that time. He just looked sad most of the morning. We loaded up and headed down to the river towards the park. We had fun walking and he alternated between walking and being carried. We got to the park and played for a bit but he was pretty reserved. A little girl and her mom came up to play and he ran over like he might know them but then realized he didn’t and got pretty sad. He snuggled up to me and we ended up swinging on a big swing for a bit, and he kind of fell asleep. We put him back in the carrier and decided to walk for awhile.
We ended up walking all the way to the World Cup stadium. Edric stayed asleep during most of the walk and was just pretty mellow. We walked around and then headed back towards our hotel. We had been told there was a good noodle place near our hotel so we google mapped it and found it. We had a great lunch and Edric loved and ate everything in site. He smiled a couple of times and it was a relief to see him eat and drink so much, he had been telling us no with everything we tried to offer him before.
Every time we come back to our room he gets very sad and then tries to put his shoes on and goes and stands by the door or points to the door or the window and says “Omma?”. He also knows that we know his schedule and how he gets ready for nap and so when we started the routine he shook his head no and kept pushing us off the bed. In the end he watched a little Thomas the Train and fell asleep on my chest. All three of us slept really hard and it was hard to get up from the nap.
We packed everything up after the nap. Foster mom gave us some toys and clothes and a handbook (traditional Korean clothes) for him. Coming over we had packed an extra duffel bag inside our suitcase and so we used that to pack everything back up. Eric seemed fairly content while we packed everything up.
The shoes that Omma sent him in are about 3 sizes too big and when he walks it looks like a clown walking and he trips over everything. Of course the shoes we brought are just one size too small. So we asked the front desk and headed out to a store to find him some shoes. It went pretty smoothly and we found him a size that he can easily get in and have some room to grow but can walk and not fall over his own feet. And then we decided to have the dinner of champions, take out pizza and orange juice. Edric ate some pizza but more rice and kimchi and stuff that foster mom sent.
After dinner and starting at bathtime Edric just kind of melted down. He cried and cried and kept going to the door. After getting him in his jammies he brought his shoes to us and tried to put them on so we would go. He cried really hard and his whole little body was shaking. He even brought me the carrier to put on so he could climb in and tried to climb on my back. We just held him and tried to comfort him. We went through the bedtime routine and ultimately he fell asleep on my chest crying. He’s been sleeping since and we fly home today. Praying for comfort over his little heart during this time.